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Oral herpes and disclosure
There's been some really good discussion around herpes stigma here already, so with that in mind I'm wondering how people go about disclosing their status if they get oral coldsores if they're not currently experiencing an outbreak? In the past I've just avoided kissing/oral sex on coldsore days and then disclosed my status once I feel like I can trust the other person. But it usually causes a lot of anxiety in the lead up to that conversation, which can't be healthy!