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I had a one night stand with someone about two weeks ago who I really connected with emotionally, found extremely attractive and who was an absolutely lovely guy. The only thing is, we simply weren't compatible in regards to intimacy (and it wasn't due to the effect of alcohol as we were both sober). It just wasn't a very exciting sexual experience for me. He did add me on Facebook but neither of us have spoken. I'm pretty reserved and don't usually like to make the first move in regards to chatting after a hook up and anyway, it's definitely too late to say anything now. But for future reference I would love to know what others think about having a good physical/emotional connection but not a good sexual one. What would you do if you were in a similar situation? Would you see someone a second time if you liked them but didn't particularly enjoy the sexual experience you had together?