Interesting questions @mak_trouble891 ! I actually think about this a lot given that during my early 20’s most of my boyfriends were 8-10 years older than me.

In the context of relationships I’m pretty against lying in general, so I would say lying about your age is a no go. But I know a lot of guys on dating apps who shave a few years off because there seems to be this weird belief that “over 30” is off limits or something. But it would all come out in the wash eventually so I don’t see the point in keeping up with a lie about age. I think the most important thing is maturity rather than age – I feel like what you want out of live and your partner and relationship isn’t based on your age as much as just whatever stage of life you’re at. some people just get there differently. 

I’m not sure about the double standards. People will say an older guy dating a much younger girl is creepy and older women dating younger men get called cougars (although sometimes thats not a bad thing? I don’t know). At the end of the day I guess respect and a mutual balanced relationship are more important than your age. But your age has the potentially to affect those things. It’s like a delicate see-saw. 

Interesting!

I am not for lying about your age. I don’t see the point, it doesn’t matter to me but I know that some people have some hang ups about it.

In terms of sex and relationships, my boyfriend is 15 years older than me. In the beginning we worried a lot about what other people would think, but soon got over that because it doesn’t matter what other people think. It works for us, we often don’t think about each others age either. Although I do tease him about it when I can, but it’s all in jest. I have a preference for older sexual partners as I have found them to be the ones that I click with the most. I haven’t worked out why, but not sure I need to either.

I think there are double standards that exist. Women can be seen as gold diggers if they are with another man and men as boy toys with another woman. But I feel that both people where there is a big age gap get stigmatised.

@MsBlueStreak I guess if you lie about your birthday you can just never have birthdays again 😆 But seriously, I think if someone is lying about their age (or anything) it would just reach a point in the discussion where you can’t keep up the lie anymore.

Ooh great topic @mak_trouble891. I am not into lying (about anything but also) about age. I have been in a relationship with a seven year gap and have friends with similar gaps, and agree the main issue is usually maturity. Excepting legality of course, I think the age of your partner is really only a concern to you and your partner because if it works, it works! <3

I think that the person may be more inclined to lie if they lied about their age @mak_trouble891 but I don’t think it means that they necessarily would lie about other things. Maybe lying about your age is a sensitive topic for some people (for example a lot of people don’t like to reveal their age when you ask them), so lying about that would be different to lying about other things.

I agree with what @DeftRat said about lying being a part of a relationship because I think that everyone does it in some way or another. Of course, that doesn’t mean they’re lying about serious things, or cheating, it could just mean a person might lie about something small like if food tastes good, to spare the others’ feelings.

Not that I am condoning lying to anyone in any way, just that it does happen in small ways a lot of the time. And again as @DeftRat mentioned, it’s generally something that needs to be worked on.