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May 25, 2017 at 3:30 am #106416

unknown
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hi everyone

i dont know if this a normal feeling- i feel like theres something wrong with me

i have a bad sexual past but i wont get into that nor would i like to- but in short it wasnt the way i planned it or liked it either

i was watching a movie and it had a sex secene in it and usually i would look away and cringe but this time it was like my body was yearning for it- ive also ahd a pleasureable dream before too
i havent acted on these yearnings- masterbation- and ive jsut ignored them and im hoping they subside
i dont think these are normal are they?

@nurse_nettie

May 25, 2017 at 3:55 am #110850

unknown
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@ElleBelle @jackh @MsBlueStreak @CloakOfAsh

May 25, 2017 at 4:23 am #110851

jackh
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Hmm @unknown I think I know what you mean, and it’s pretty normal, I’m sure most people get sexual feelings and masturbation is totally ok

May 25, 2017 at 6:14 am #110852

unknown
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i dont know….
i think t would be weird if i did that- no judgement to anyone else who does it

isnt it weird for females to do it themelves

May 25, 2017 at 6:19 am #110853

Nurse_Nettie
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Yes @unknown, this is completely, entirely 100% normal & healthy. This feeling is called desire.

May 25, 2017 at 6:48 am #110854

unknown
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Really @Nurse_Nettie even though i had a bad past.

Even i was to act on these desires i dont have anything to use and im not using fingers

May 25, 2017 at 10:55 am #110855

ElleBelle
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Hey @unknown, if your introduction to sex was distressing it can make sexual desires feel confusing or uncomfortable. Like the others have said, what you’re feeling (getting turned on by a sex scene in a movie and being curious about masturbation) is a completely normal response, and it’s how many people start to learn about their own bodies and what they like.

Lots of women masturbate, although they tend not to talk about it as openly as guys do, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it. There is some info here, but generally for women masturbation involves stroking or rubbing your clitoris and other parts of your vagina. Some women do use sex toys like dildos and vibrators, which we have info on here, but it’s not mandatory and since toys cost money using your fingers is a good way to start.

Masturbation has gotten a bad rap over the years, some people are taught it’s wrong or dirty – but there is absolutely nothing shameful about doing it. If you’re feeling hesitant because of your past, chatting to a counsellor can really help work through some of those feelings. You can visit your GP and ask for a referral, or if that’s too nerve-wracking, you can call 1800 RESPECT or use their webchat service, and they can help link you up with a counsellor.

May 25, 2017 at 11:35 pm #110856

Nurse_Nettie
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Hi @unknown what @ElleBelle says is true. You can also touch any other parts of your body (& not just the vagina) to see how it feels. If you don’t want to use fingers that’s ok too. Some people use & hold pillows, cushions or soft toys, there’s no problems with that either.

May 26, 2017 at 4:31 am #110857

unknown
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@Nurse_Nettie

I tried it and i was waay to tight to fit anything in there anyway and the muscles was pushing them out and it was painful
I used fingers and im not proud and actually very embarrassed about it but it hurt and ive only got thin fingers and now it burns in there is that normal and i dont have nails and they were clean

May 26, 2017 at 5:06 am #110858

MsBlueStreak
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@unknown before @Nurse_Nettie chimes in, I’ll say this (and keep repeating it if you need me to): you don’t have any reason to be embarrassed. Masturbation is just the most incredibly normal and natural thing.

We casually talk about guys jerking off all the time in high-school sex-ed; but we just kinda pretend that women don’t have the same needs, which is just beyond CRAZY!

Female pleasure is so natural that Emma Watson quite proudly talks about it: read this hello giggles article.

You are probably not ready for the OMGYES site she mentions yet, but if you’re feeling brave then take a look at the outer site for more information.

May 26, 2017 at 5:30 am #110859

Nurse_Nettie
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@unknown, if your sore in the vagina don’t put anything inside it. I think its better to sort the symptoms out with a doctor first. If you put anything inside the vagina & it’s painful -stop & don’t force it. What I meant was that some people rub soft & textured items on the skin of the whole body to feel different sensations & to learn what parts of the body feel nice to be touched that way. Masturbation doesn’t always mean putting things inside the vagina or bum (penetration).

May 26, 2017 at 6:49 am #110860

unknown
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hi @MsBlueStreak
thank you for your input
i cant help but feeling embarrassed though. that was the first time ive done that and its very unusual for me to do. im sure many other women do it and more that wont admit to it but its weird for me

May 26, 2017 at 6:52 am #110861

unknown
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@Nurse_Nettie i wasnt sore until something was inside. i tried your soft trick but it didnt do anythign for me at all except make me feel even stranger

my body was rejecting my own finger- just one
i dont want to meantion this to my gp either
though it might add in with the smell, discharge and the itching and now the burning and pain i felt with this today

May 26, 2017 at 7:09 am #110862

Nurse_Nettie
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You’re not alone @unknown. Some women find vaginal penetration very painful. If there’s no infection or other physical problem causing it, sexual therapy or counselling may help. It’s totally ok to talk to a doctor about this.

May 26, 2017 at 7:22 am #110863

unknown
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I cant im to embarrassed @Nurse_Nettie

I cant walk in there and say i tried masturbaton and it hurt. My finger wouldnt go in
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