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  • September 8, 2016 at 8:04 am #106324
    Aunt_FloAunt_Flo
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    What would you say to someone who’s trying their hardest, but isn’t quite getting you there? Is it okay to lie to spare feelings, or should you try and break it to them? What’s the best way to bring this up?

    September 9, 2016 at 5:32 am #109538
    v4wanndii
    Participant

    That’s a really good question @Aunt_Flo Actually, I had this problem when I first dated my boyfriend. In my case, I just talked to him about how I wanted to be as happy as he was when we had sex. I think he felt awkward at first, but i kept on  saying about how I loved him and wanted to continue our relationship for  a long time.  He was very cooperative. And he asked me what he should do. I think you need to start a conversation, just find a right moment, mood and words.

    September 10, 2016 at 2:39 am #109539
    NickiPower
    Participant

    You could also suggest other positions that help you enjoy it better @Aunt_Flo – mixing it up a little and perhaps taking control may be something you both enjoy. 

    September 13, 2016 at 10:00 pm #109540
    Aunt_FloAunt_Flo
    Moderator

    Sound advice, guys! It’s always a difficult thing to bring up, and can often be hurtful to partners if not phrased correctly. 

    September 15, 2016 at 2:31 am #109541
    Kit
    Participant

    Interesting. I think it really depends on your relationship, too.

    In the case of a casual hook up you might not bother mentioning anything or alternatively feel freer to be blunt about it. Personally, I would never lie though.

    September 16, 2016 at 3:43 am #109542
    RoseHill
    Participant

    I always find it helpful and slightly less awkward, and can even be incredibly sexy to suggest trying mutual masturbation during sex. Sounds a bit out there but it can be as simple as stimulating your own clitoris during penetration or asking your partner to show you how they would touch them self while you watch. 
    I usually use a vibrator on my own but when my partner and I decided to bring it into couples play it really heated things up for me!

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